Acceptance

Hello Dear Friends

We wish to speak with you today about the powerful healing tool called acceptance. That’s right, acceptance. Many of you think of acceptance as giving up. You think of it as being passive. That is not what true acceptance is.

Acceptance is letting go of the struggle mentality around something. When you struggle about something, you are exerting a lot of effort that can be better put to use. When you struggle, you are so busy fighting and pushing away, that you are unable to see the problem for what it is and find the solution. When you push something away, you deny its existence and therefore you cannot heal it. You cannot heal what you do not experience. Many of you spend years and perhaps lifetimes trying to avoid something, trying to keep something at arms length because of fear. As a result you are keeping yourself at arms length too.

The very act of acceptance is in itself a very loving and compassionate act. When you accept something happening in your life, you are embracing a part of yourself. Everything that happens to you, your entire life, is a part of you. If it is painful or difficult, you can bet there is an orphaned part of you, that wants nothing more than to come home and be nurtured, accepted and loved. When you accept, you open the door for yourself, instead of shutting yourself out.

Allowing yourself to be loved (by loving yourself), is the most important part of acceptance, and what makes it a extremely powerful healing tool. Love is the energy that underlies all of life. Love heals. When you love what is, you find the healing it contains. You do not have to go searching for answers or techniques. The pain and anguish of denial and struggle are gone. The fear of the situation is gone. You are left with the experience of discovering that there is nothing to fear at all. You may find the situation changes (it most likely will), or it may not. However, it no longer matters. When you remove the fear about something, you disarm it.

Judo teaches how to work with the “energies” of push and pull. It teaches that when someone pulls you towards them, instead of resisting and trying to pull away, if you move in their direction, working with the momentum they have provided, they have no power over you. Acceptance likewise involves going with the flow, using the energies present in a situation, regardless of how adverse it may seem, as a partner in your healing process. Acceptance means rolling with the changes, the punches. Nowhere does Judo say that it is about allowing yourself to be punched or harmed. And although Judo is referred to as self defense, we prefer to think of it as common sense.

We hope that this writing has added a little bit of light and insight to the concept of acceptance. We wish to remind you that the most powerful and wonderful healing tools are often the ones that are manifest around you in everyday life. This is because they work! Sometimes it is easy to miss them because they are not flashy or popular, or because they are misunderstood. Healing does not have to be a struggle. We wish for it to be a gentle, and easy pleasure. You deserve it.

Peace,
Linda White Dove and Guidance
3/20/01

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